Gendar has no bearing on how a person views halloween. To say males are more gruesome and females cute is about the same as saying girls cant play with toy trucks and boy cant play with dolls (sorry, action figures).
No gore. Nothing scary or creepy. Lots of bright flashing lights, butterflies and puppies.
Oh talking about Halloween not my Arbor Day display. Well then. Still no gore (no guts, no blood), no actors. High creepiness. I don't go for the scare at all.
I go for a great scare and hate the cute stuff. Maybe if I still had little kids I'd tone it down a little. Ah, who am I kidding.....I'd scare the ever living crap outta them...just ask them...I did it when they were younger LOL.
I don't like cute, BUT I DID do cute for 2 years because my youngest was terrified and I mean TERRIFIED of Halloween stuff... even if you put on a funny cute mask, he would freak out. So, we had cutesy ghosts and bats and pumpkins until he was 2...(gawd that was tuff) then I changed it, and he watched me make stuff. Now he is right into it. (Whew) and always wants to help make stuff. And tries everytime we are at the doctor to convince the doctor to give me the skeleton in his office.
I don't like gore at all though, and keep it out of my displays.
I go somewhere in between. Cute has its place, especially with smaller kids who are scared. I don't see traumatizing them so they don't like the holiday.
I don't do a whole gory/gruesome display because of the amount of smaller children I get every year but I try to make it kinda creepy so it will appeal to a larger audience. I have some cute stuff in the house but I decorate outside with more traditional halloween props. Ghosts, JOLs, skeletons, etc. One year I had a prop with gory cross mark burned into her forehead..it had me creeped out!
I like the gory props, and I like just plain creepy looking props. My tastes have changed a lot over the years. I had more cute stuff when I was younger but it has gotten creepier over the years.
I don't know if gruesome vs cute is skewed to either side in these forums because the people here are really into prop building and like all kinds of stuff. Lack of gore doesn't necessarily mean cute. You used the word "clever" to go with cute on the gal's side. I think clever goes with both equally but I don't know that I have seen more gore/grisly from either side more than the other.