i can not wait for the day when people do not have to come out. they can just either say they are gay or not and no one thinks it is a big deal.no one automatically wonders if you are top or bottom.or assumes you are a sexual deviant who does everyone because you are gay. I do not think it is so much that they want to make it public as why should they hide it. most people who are hetero do not think twice about talking about there relationships. when you are gay you need to make sure you do not say certain things until you come out.